The mentoring process starts with the mentor and mentee getting to know each other. Confidential interaction is built from the very first meeting. The first meeting is particularly important, and you should prepare for it properly.
The mentee must think about their personal goals for working life, and what they want to discuss. The mentor must also prepare for mentoring by examining mentoring goals and the shared set of rules, and by considering what they want to share and what they want to get out of mentoring meetings.
The mentor and mentee should get to know each other slowly, as this helps to build confidential interaction and to understand the other person’s perspectives. Useful questions include:
- What would you like to say about yourself?
- Why did you decide to participate in mentoring?
- What is important to you?
- What skills do you have?
- What goals do you have for working life in the future?
You can use the lifeline exercise at your meeting (löydät tehtävän Mentoroinnin työkalut -pdf:stä, jonka voit ladata alempaa). In addition, the mentor and mentee must agree the goals, duration and rules of mentoring during their first meeting. These must also be entered in the mentoring agreement.
The goals of the mentoring process are built around the mentee’s personal goals. The mentee must present their personal goals at the first meeting, on the basis of which goals are discussed and defined mutually for mentoring. It is important to define mutual goals to ensure both the mentor and mentee understand the purpose of their meetings. However, the goals can be specified during the mentoring process. Possible mentoring goals include identifying the mentee’s skills, rules of working life and networking.
A shared set of rules must be defined for mentoring, and all agreed matters must be entered in the mentoring agreement. The mentor and a mentee must agree meeting principles, responsibilities, boundaries and discussion topics. They must also agree concrete practical arrangements such as when and where to meet, and how to maintain contact (by email or phone for example). At the beginning of the process, it is also good to discuss how to give feedback, and when to assess the mentoring process.
The mentor and mentee should return to the mentoring agreement in the middle of the mentoring process, especially if the meeting goals have not become clear along the way. Agreed meetings can be planned in detail to ensure discussion topics are defined beforehand, or they can only be defined at each meeting to discuss current themes.
Download orientation material here: Orientation for mentees and mentors (PDF)
Download and print a mentoring agreement template here: Mentoring agreement: Mentoring agreement (PDF) Mentoring agreement (word)